A Lesson On Softening Your Heart


Its easy when things keep going wrong to carry on that anger to the next person but after having the most up and down Sunday, there's something I want to share in regard to this.



Sade and I had started our Sunday in Hampstead having a wander around and finding cute little spots to take pictures of. The start of our day wasn't the smoothest, with our cab making us miss the train, Sade's drink not being made in Starbucks, with the pushing and shoving that comes with commuting via public transport you can imagine we were feeling slightly testy.

We did stumble across some cute places though, here's some of what I managed to capture:




Moods somewhat dampened by the rollercoaster of events that happened on our journey here, we called it quits early and went to look for somewhere to eat. We ended up going for food in Camden and having a small walk around there before going to church for last service.

Sade ran into one of her friends who was leaving the previous service and as the three of us were having a catch up, our conversation was disrupted by a homeless man who we soon found out was called Terry. Usually when in the Tottennham Court Road / Oxford Circus area you get use to speeding past people begging / asking for money but this was a bit different.



Terry posed a question that questioned our knowledge of the bible which I have to admit threw me off and not just me I think but all of us. He then went on to explain the answer whilst singing what I believe was a hymn or worship song of some sort? The second question he posed to us was whether we had change we could spare him as he was having bank card problems. I only had about two pounds so I gave what I had, same with Sade. However Sade's friend only had a note which was much more than he asked for but out of the kindness of her heart she gave it to him.

Suprised, Terry thanked her over and over and promised to meet her in the exact spot we were standing in to give the money back. He showed us his bank card for proof, asked her name and a time and then went on to pray for us. It was in that moment, after that exchange I realised that we can be so quick to build up inner rage that we carry around with us all day over the most insignificant things when you look back at it. We become angry and we harden our hearts, we take it out on people around us, we snap, we glare and we potentially pass that same attitude on to someone else.


By carrying around that anger you fail to welcome new encounters. If we were quick to dismiss Terry we wouldn't have heard his story, we wouldn't have been able to show him that there's a reason to continue to be having faith in not only God but strangers. Can you imagine how hard it must be to hold on to your faith when homeless? Yet Terry wore a smile on his face, was singing Gods praises and kind enough to pray for us?

This is just a post to remind you to soften your heart from time to time, yes things go wrong, yes its annoying when it happens but is it really the end of the world when you get shoved? Is it the end of the world if you miss your train? Don't let something that will be trivial tomorrow affect your mood all day. Take a second to think about how your actions can make someone else feel. After that encounter I want to practice not being so quick to anger because it does nothing for you but puts you in a worse mood.


Your encounters with people can have a lasting effect, whether its a good or bad one? That's something you control. I remember encounters with people which were good and bad and they both had differing lasting effects. The one that went bad earlier this year reduced me with tears and left me shaking in the middle of my lecture panicking. The ones that went good this year have spurred me on and have put me in places I never expected and only dreamed of.

I hope this post was somewhat encouraging.

until the next post,
with love yossy.

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