Why Date Yourself?

Last sunday after an amazing service at Hillsong, I decided to make my way home seeing as I didn't have my sister and partner in crime with me to hang out about the Central London streets, also being broke doesn't help or else I would have taken myself for a latte.

Then a thought occurred to me, why not see if the Saachi gallery is open? Seeing as there was an exhibition I had been wanting to visit since may. To my luck, it's open all days of the week and closes in the evening, so I decided to go as it's free and only one bus ride from where I was.

Alone, I embarked on this little adventure and although at times it felt weird being alone, it soon became comforting. This led to me realising that spending time with yourself, treating yourself and doing things that make you happy is so important.

This is why I think we should date ourselves. 

Now hear me out, it sounds weird but you'll get what I mean. When I say date ourselves I mean the following:

1. Take Yourself Out

It's nice going out with friends, family, loved ones don't get me wrong but I can't explain how nice it is to spend time alone with your thoughts. You can let your mind wander wherever you like, no one to disturb your thoughts, you can focus and feel centered. Taking yourself out can remind you of all the nice things you deserve, how you should be treated, it also gives you the opportunity to remind yourself of the fact that you are amazing company and anyone would be privileged to spend time with you.

By taking myself to the art gallery I was really able to enjoy something I had waited so long for, no one to rush me or take away from my experience. I got to focus on the art and people watch in peace and I loved every second of it.

2. Treat Yourself

You do not, have to wait for someone to come around and do something nice for you to feel like you deserve the attention. If there is somewhere you want to go, something you want to buy, go for it, you deserve it. It's one of the best feelings ever knowing you deserve good things and that there is nothing wrong with giving it to yourself because at the end of the day, who has your back better than you? Who cares about whats best for you more than you? Who cares about how you're doing mentally more than you?

3. Take Care Of Yourself

How are you doing? How's life treating you? What's your mental health like at the moment? Take moments to sit down and see how you're really doing, be honest with yourself. If you're doing good then just remember to be thankful for that and relish in your positivity, you deserve all the good things happening to you. Things aren't so great? That's fine, bad days are normal. Just remind yourself that bad feelings are temporary and good times are coming and remind yourself of the fact that your lucky to be alive, breathing, hearing, seeing and in good health, things could always be worse.

4. Write Yourself Love Letters

This may sound the weirdest of them all but write yourself a 'love letter' to remind yourself of all the things about yourself that are amazing, we get so caught up sometimes in the little things that we don't like about ourselves that we forget there are SO many things about us to fall in love with. Whether it be the little gap in your teeth (in my case), your freckles or how when you smile a dimple appears. We're so quick to be our own enemies and biggest critics, well how about being our own supporters, our own biggest fan!

5. Focus On Your Likes And Interests:

What makes you happy? What do you want to do? Create memories and experiences for yourself, don't wait for someone to come along in the future, make things happen for yourself now. I've always wanted to explore hidden gems in London and get into art and I'm finally making that happen for myself and it sounds like something so significant but knowing I'm the one creating these memories for myself feels amazing, I focused on what I want and had no regrets doing it.

These are just some of the things that crossed my mind as I wandered around the gallery, stuck in my own mind and the amazing art surrounding me. I hope that this post helped in some way? Let me know if you like these kind of posts as I really enjoy writing them.

until the next post my lovelies,
with love yossy x

What's your opinion?

  1. I really enjoyed reading this, everything you said was on point. I promised to start taking myself on dates but I haven't done so yet unfortunately. I love the idea behind it, as you said who can have your back as much as you? Great post Yossy. xx
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