University: Loneliness, Isolation & Motivation


You're away from your family, friends, surrounded by new people, strangers that are soon to turn to acquaintances, to friends, to best friends and maybe boyfriends or girlfriends. Along with university and its many freedoms comes new experiences, new opportunities and situations and both can lead to you changing as a person and before you know it, you feel almost as if you've lost yourself.
It's hard the first year of university I won't lie to you, not just the academic side but the mental health side of it, staying positive, being okay and surviving even can sometimes seem hard. You see, university is a place where its so easy to fall into temptation, with all sorts of opportunities being offered your way. But my advice is to remember yourself, what you stand for and ask yourself if it will be worth it in the end.

There were points during my first year where I honestly felt like I was drowning in confusion, I felt low, I felt exhausted, I felt alone even though I had so many friends surrounding me, friends I had known since primary school but I felt like I couldn't ask them for help because I was being needy, or that I was a bother. 

If you ever in this situation like I was, its okay to ask for help. That's what friends are for.

I would sit there in my room and question why I am the way I am, if anyone liked me, I questioned who I was. It got to the point I would avoid friends, I wouldn't eat, I'd sleep all day just so I had an excuse to not interact with anyone. I just didn't like who I was because I convinced myself the negative voices in my head were true. But the crazy part is, speaking to one of my friends now in second year, she said she went through the same thing in first year and it made me feel a little less crazy?

It made me realise that a lot of people are going through the same thing as you or even worse. University seriously challenges your mental health, its a battle of overcoming your demons and creating the best experience for yourself because university is meant to be one of the best periods of your life. So if any of your friends seem down, not themselves or like they're struggling, check up on them. let them know you care and are there to support them even if they don't seem to want it. The care is appreciated even though some people would rather deal with things alone. 

Staying motivated in university is probably one of the hardest tasks there is. Especially in first year because 'first year doesn't count' right? That's how most of us look at it but I've come to realise that there's no point of going to university and paying the 9k for the year to come out of the year with a mediocre grade, get your moneys worth! You wouldn't pay 9k for mediocre service or quality or for a mediocre experience right?

Also its your future so grab every opportunity to open up more doors for yourself, think about the dream life you want to have and how it's obtainable. Grades can help as well as having connections but the better you do to begin with, the easier you are making things for yourself and the less work you create for yourself. No one likes the feeling of pressure so why do we always leave things till last minute and then cry about how stressed we are? Its part of the cycle of life at university I suppose.

I had many days where I would spend all day laying in bed doing nothing and watching netflix without feeling guilty and honestly it doesn't feel as good as when you reward yourself for working hard. The feeling of accomplishing something, is one of the best feelings at university and honestly its a habit that you need to get into.  

Making small everyday changes to your approach, mindset and outlook can make the world of a difference at university. I thought deeply about my experience in first year and so far, I'm happy to say I'm having a much better experience so far in second year, in regard to friendships, mental health, work ethic and motivation.

There's nothing wrong with feeling lonely, isolating yourself or sometimes not feeling motivated at university it happens to all of us at some point. But don't let it all defeat you, bounce back from it.

here's to a better and more successful university experience this year.

coat  - missguided
jumper - h&m 
jeans - american eagle
boots - h&m
bag - primark 

until the next post,
with love yossy.

What's your opinion?

  1. Such a great post! University was such a difficult time for me with bitchy so called friends but it made me the person I am today and I couldn't be happier! I honestly think it's such a normal thing for people to feel lonely and isolated at Uni so people should always know they are not alone x

  2. This comment has been removed by the author.


@Latest On Instagram