Dua Lipa Has New Rules And So Do I


As I looked back over the kind of year I had in 2017, I realised that most of the times where I felt down or something bad happened, was a result of me doing something to cause it, whether it was me being lazy, letting people put in certain predicaments or me just making silly decisions. 

Feeling pretty inspired  by this particular part of Dua Lipa's New Rules: practice makes perfect, I'm still tryna' learn it by heart. Eat, sleep and breathe it, rehearse and repeat it.'I decided that I needed to create some new rules for myself to have a happier and less stressful new year.

1. Lower Your Expectations:
I am probably the queen of having high expectations when it comes to people and certain situations which always ends with me being disappointed. It's time I stop, I can't count how many times  I felt disappointed by failed actions last year. I'm one of those people who expect that people are straight away going to put the same amount of effort in as I do and its only when they fail to do so, it dawns on me that not everyone you meet is going to be willing to go the extra mile you do.

I constantly put way too much energy and effort into those that don't deserve it and then fail to give people who always do the most for me the same energy and attention they give me which always make me feel guilty. 2018 is the year I learn how to reciprocate the same level of energy given to me.

2. Cutting People Off Is Healthy/ Not Everyone Has To Be Your Friend:
Again, I'm one of those people who care too much about what other people may say or think about me which results in me either biting my tongue too often or not handling things the right way. I let people treat me anyhow a lot last year which resulted in me being upset often and I wondered why I always felt unhappy?

Too afraid of the idea of no longer having someone in my life and having to encounter them on a near daily basis or the idea of not being liked by someone really held me back and led to me letting certain behaviors slip by without fixing it. I would be uncomfortable, upset, confused and angry but I wouldn't say anything.  But I've learnt that it's time I start speaking up on behaviors that make me feel this way and if leads to fall outs then so be it because I'd rather those behaviors aren't exhibited around me.

3. Don't Be So Quick:
This applies to many things I experienced in 2017.

 Firstly in the sense that I'm one of those people that when an amazing opportunity comes my way I can't help but let everyone know what it is before it has even been confirmed which leads to disappointment when things fall through because I've hyped up the situation and now I've told people about it and then they're excited for me. Yikes. This year I'm going to actually let things happen and then tell people about it because I really do need to learn how to contain my excitement.

Other ways in which this applies is me not being so quick to be pessimistic, to give up and to get tired. Good things sometimes take time I need to learn that the hard way instead of just giving up after the first hurdle or when things suddenly get hard because this has led to me missing out on so much and I end up always kicking myself for it.

So those are my three rules I'm taking with me so far into this new year, I will definitely creating more as the year goes a long but these are the main ones I'm focusing  on at the moment because they cause me the most 'personal' stress.

What's some new rules you've created for this new year?

Beret - Primark
Top - New Look
Jeans - Topshop
Trainers - Vans
Coat - Missguided
Bag - Primark

Until the next post, 
With Love Yossy x

What's your opinion?

  1. Great post, lovely. Hope you're having a great start to 2018 x


  2. I'm so glad you're back to blogging, I missed you! I can definitely agree with you on so many of these points. I also give myself unrealistic goals, and I just have to lower my expectations a bit. I think that's sometimes why I get so upset with myself and my current circumstances. I can also agree with you in terms of trying to be a people pleaser and wanting everyone to like me. It's something that I've been having less difficulties within the last year or so, but it wasn't always easy for me. Great post Yossy xxx

    Melina | www.ivefoundwaldo.com


@Latest On Instagram