Lessons From Summer '18.

Summer 2018 you've been so good to me, you've taught me a lot about myself, about what I expect from life and what's healthy and what is not. For that I'm grateful. 

I'm currently sitting in the car on my way to my third and final year of university as I write this. The sun is shining through the windows creating beautiful and warm rays of sun on the exposed parts of my skin, which is making this creative bar even more enjoyable. 

I thought I'd share with you guys some lessons that summer has taught me and all of them haven't been so obvious and direct, some have come to me in disguise. The quicker you learn and accept that things happen for a reason, the better.

Lesson 1: look at the relationships around you.
I can't stress how important it is to sometimes sit back and look at the people around us, the people we associate ourselves with or call our friends.  Ask yourself is this person bringing light and goodness into my life or are they making things hard for me? Are they pulling at my happiness? If  you find yourself picturing people its time to start distancing yourself from them. Sometimes we let good memories and the strength of a friendship overshadow the fact that some....are just toxic and are no good for us.

Don't forget to look at yourself when looking at the state of your relationships. A lot of the time we can be the cause of why a friendship is failing. Our failure to communicate, check in and be a decent friend can get away from us because 'life got in the way' but sometimes a simple text can make all the difference. Make time for the people you care about even if its the smallest amount it will be appreciated I promise you.

Lesson 2: everything is on the other side of fear.
I'm going to keep stressing this same point until I see differences being made in your lives. Once you let go of the fear that is preventing you from doing something you have been wanting to do, there is literally nothing in your way, am I right or wrong?  There are all these opportunities out there waiting for us but we are holding ourselves back because we believe we are not good enough? Not a right fix? If we keep feeding ourselves these excuses we will continue to miss out on so much.

Lets change that?

Lesson 3: not knowing everything is okay.
When giving my speech to year 12 students I decided to be super honest with them. It took me two years into my degree and this summer to realise what I want to do with my life. What my purpose is. What I could wake up and do every day. Which leads me to this lesson, you don't have to know everything in the world. Some things are better unknown because the journey you will take finding that answer as you seek it, will probably change your life for the better.

Lesson 4: do not let your finances limit/define you.
I've never been comfortable with the idea of having financial support from family, especially at my age. I think its a pride thing. But this summer my lack of hours forced me to quit and my internship wasn't paid so I was pretty much poor. My family supported me through the summer without even thinking twice but I didn't like asking for money so I tended to cancel a lot of my outings / I wouldn't go to a lot of events because I couldn't afford to/

I limited myself to many things because I was embarrassed of the fact at points I couldn't even pay my own phone bill when I see other people my age buying or doing amazing things with their own money. But being in this situation made me realise it's only temporary and I won't always be in this situation. My family wanted to help me and that's what family do, so why was I being so awkward about the idea of them supporting me?

Lesson 5: sometimes we need to put our pride to the side. 
This last point links a lot with number 4, soemtimes we really need to put our pride aside and just do things. I did a lot of free work this summer in terms of my photography and blogging which I got annoyed with sometimes but I had to remind myself of why I was doing it. I was building myself up a portfolio, I was doing it for my CV.

Our pride can really get in the way of us experiencing new and amazing things. It is also can stop us from meeting people from all walks of life. All the things I was worried  about / didn't want to do ended up helping me create the best experiences this summer and I can't even tell you how many amazing friendships have come out of doing it. The situations grew on me and I found myself loving what I was doing more.

So there are just a few of the things I've learnt this summer, hope they inspire you to do some thinking.

until the next post,
with love yossy

Beret -  H&M
T-shirt -  Primark
Trousers - Bershka
Boots - H&M
Bag - Lekki Market
Coat - Missguided

What's your opinion?

  1. I LOVED this post yossy! Thanks for sharing these lessons, they really spoke to me xxx


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